When you are satisfied that intervening will not jeopardise your safety or that of others, the following approaches are recommended to defuse the situation:

  • Intervene early and where possible ask another staff member to assist
  • Try to find a quiet place to talk – somewhere away from noise and distractions (including other clients)
  • Introduce yourself and your role - speak clearly and calmly – one person only speaks to the client
  • Acknowledge their feelings and treat them with respect
  • Use the person’s name if known
  • Recognise the cause/s of the clients complaint and endeavour to join with them to find a resolution
  • Allow the person time to respond to statements/questions
  • Allow some ‘venting’ of frustration but do not allow yourself to be subjected to abuse or threats
  • Provide guidance in terms of suggestions rather than instructions
  • Communication should focus on ‘I’ statements e.g. ‘I feel unsafe when you raise your voice’
  • If it is not possible to communicate effectively with the client, seek the assistance of a family member, friend or interpreter who can
  • It can be useful to rehearse an ‘exit strategy’ - often referred to as a ‘circuit breaker’ – a quick excuse/remedy to the situation that will work for most clients and gives you an opportunity to exit the situation if is it you believe a physical attack is likely

What not to do

  • Do not threaten or intimidate the client
  • Do not raise your voice or speak rapidly
  • Do not allow yourself or others be subjected to abuse or threats etc.
  • Don’t make flippant, sarcastic or dismissive comments
  • Avoid making promises that can’t be kept
  • Don’t rush the situation and look for a ‘quick’ fix – time can be a critical issue – so take your time and focus on resolving the situation together
  • Don’t try to enact long-term behaviours solutions or deliver consequences for behaviour when escalation is occurring (it is still important to have boundaries and act in the interests of everyone’s safety)
  • Do not use ‘jargon’, acronyms or confusing ‘technical’ language